As Muslimah mothers we all lead busy lives, thus making it difficult to take care of our children and to fulfill all of our Islamic duties; however, although it can be a challenge, it is certainly not impossible. What makes it possible to fulfill all of our duties is the assistance from the one and only Allah (Subḥānahu Wa Ta’Ala), for it is Allah (Subḥānahu Wa Ta’Ala) that gives us mothers Sabr (patience).
“And Your Lord said: Call on Me, I will answer you” Quran 40:60
“Remember Me, and I will remember you, give thanks to Me, and reject Me not” Quran 2:152
SET REALISTIC GOALS:
We have to keep in mind that we all are living different lives from one another under different circumstances. Some of us may be mom’s working full or part-time outside of the house, while some of us are stay at home mom’s taking care of young children or even children with special needs. The number of children we have and their ages vary, as do how much help we have from family and friends. For these very reasons, it is important to never compare yourself with others.
When I say we should never compare ourselves to others, I mean in every aspect; including our Ibadaat during Ramadan. For instance, just because you hear of a sister’s goal to complete the Quran twice during Ramadan, this doesn’t mean that you now have to do the same. Of course, doing so would benefit you and you will get rewarded immensely, however you have to consider your personal situation. Perhaps this sister has older children, or has extra help to take care of the household, while you may have young children with little or no help at all.
Setting unrealistic goals means you are setting yourself up for failure. If you try to complete the Quran twice with three small children who are in constant need of your attention, it may or may not happen. Perhaps you will start reading the first few chapters, and then give up altogether; thus leaving you unmotivated to complete even half of one Quran. However, if you make a list of attainable Islamic goals that you know you can reach, you will complete this list, in shaa Allah, and you will feel motivated to keep going!
Don’t be afraid to ask for help. Ask your children, or your husband to help prepare Iftar and help out with the household chores throughout the day. If your mother, sisters, or friends are going through that time of month where they are unable to keep a fast for a week, then consider leaving your children with them for a few hours a day during that week, so that you can read some Quran continuously without any interruption. Likewise, ask these family members and friends to come over during the time of Taraweeh, so that they can supervise the children while you pray in peace.
WHAT TO RECITE THROUGHOUT THE DAY:
Sisters, if you feel like you don’t have a long period of time for Ibadaat, then please consider reciting beneficial duas throughout the day. I have mentioned some examples below:
Surah Ikhlaas – If recited three times, you will get the reward of reading one whole Quran, Subhan’Allah!
“Qul huwallaahu ahad Allahus samad Lam yalid wa lam yuulad Wa lamyakun lahuuu kufuwan ahad”
In the name of Allah, the Beneficent, the Merciful.
Say: He is Allah, the One. He is Allah, the Eternal, Who was never born, nor ever gave birth. The One beyond compare.
Subhan’Allah wa biHamdihi (Glory be to Allah and I Praise Him)-
Whoever says (the above) a hundred times during the day, his sins are wiped away, even if they are like the foam of the sea [Sahih al-Bukhari; 7:168, Muslim; 4:2071]
SubhanAllahi wa biHamdihi SubhanAllahil adheem (Glory be to Allah, and Praise, Glory be to Allah, the Supreme)-
Prophet Muhammad (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) said: “Two words are light on the tongue, weigh heavily in the balance, they are loved by the Most Merciful One”
[Sahih al-Bukhari; 7:67, Muslim; 4:2071]
THE IMPORTANCE OF DHIKR:
Dhikr ( the remembrance of Allah Subḥānahu Wa Ta’Ala ) has so many benefits, therefore we should try to do as much Dhikr as we can throughout the month of Ramadan – Don’t forget, rewards are mutliplied by 70 during this month!
To all the mothers out there, if you feel like you have no energy left for Taraweeh prayer after a long day of fasting and taking care of the household, please recite ‘Subhan’Allah‘ 33 times, ‘Alhumdulillah‘ 33 times, and ‘Allahu Akbar‘ 34 times; In Shaa Allah this will give you the energy boost you need-
It is that reported in the Hadith of ‘Ali ibn Abi Taalib (Radi Allahu Anhu) who said that Fatimah (Radi Allahu Anha) came to the Prophet Muhammad (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) and asked him for a servant. He said, “Shall I not tell you of something that is better for you than that? When you go to sleep, say ‘Subhan’Allah’ thirty-three times, ‘Allhumdulillah’ thirty-three times, and ‘Allahu Akbar’ thirty four times.” (Bukhari).
In shaa Allah, I hope these tips will be of benefit. Always keep in mind that Allah (Subḥānahu Wa Ta’Ala) knows our intentions, he knows our situation, and he knows we are putting forth our full effort; and he will continue to shower his blessings upon us if we ask him to. May you all have a peaceful Ramadan and may Allah (Subḥānahu Wa Ta’Ala) grant all the mother’s Sabr, Ameen. © The Muslimah Mommy (2014)