The Muslimah Mommy’s Tips For Mothers During Ramadan

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MAKE DUA:
As Muslimah mothers we all lead busy lives, thus making it difficult to take care of our children and to fulfill all of our Islamic duties; however, although it can be a challenge, it is certainly not impossible. What makes it possible to fulfill all of our duties is the assistance from the one and only Allah (Subḥānahu Wa Ta’Ala), for it is Allah (Subḥānahu Wa Ta’Ala) that gives us mothers Sabr (patience).

“And Your Lord said: Call on Me, I will answer you” Quran 40:60

“Remember Me, and I will remember you, give thanks to Me, and reject Me not” Quran 2:152

SET REALISTIC GOALS:
We have to keep in mind that we all are living different lives from one another under different circumstances. Some of us may be mom’s working full or part-time outside of the house, while some of us are stay at home mom’s taking care of young children or even children with special needs. The number of children we have and their ages vary, as do how much help we have from family and friends. For these very reasons, it is important to never compare yourself with others.

When I say we should never compare ourselves to others, I mean in every aspect; including our Ibadaat during Ramadan. For instance, just because you hear of a sister’s goal to complete the Quran twice during Ramadan, this doesn’t mean that you now have to do the same. Of course, doing so would benefit you and you will get rewarded immensely, however you have to consider your personal situation. Perhaps this sister has older children, or has extra help to take care of the household, while you may have young children with little or no help at all.

Setting unrealistic goals means you are setting yourself up for failure. If you try to complete the Quran twice with three small children who are in constant need of your attention, it may or may not happen. Perhaps you will start reading the first few chapters, and then give up altogether; thus leaving you unmotivated to complete even half of one Quran. However, if you make a list of attainable Islamic goals that you know you can reach, you will complete this list, in shaa Allah, and you will feel motivated to keep going!

SEEK ASSISTANCE:
Don’t be afraid to ask for help. Ask your children, or your husband to help prepare Iftar and help out with the household chores throughout the day. If your mother, sisters, or friends are going through that time of month where they are unable to keep a fast for a week, then consider leaving your children with them for a few hours a day during that week, so that you can read some Quran continuously without any interruption. Likewise, ask these family members and friends to come over during the time of Taraweeh, so that they can supervise the children while you pray in peace.

WHAT TO RECITE THROUGHOUT THE DAY:
Sisters, if you feel like you don’t have a long period of time for Ibadaat, then please consider reciting beneficial duas throughout the day. I have mentioned some examples below:

Surah Ikhlaas – If recited three times, you will get the reward of reading one whole Quran, Subhan’Allah!

“Qul huwallaahu ahad Allahus samad Lam yalid wa lam yuulad Wa lamyakun lahuuu kufuwan ahad”

In the name of Allah, the Beneficent, the Merciful.
Say: He is Allah, the One. He is Allah, the Eternal, Who was never born, nor ever gave birth. The One beyond compare.

Subhan’Allah wa biHamdihi (Glory be to Allah and I Praise Him)-
Whoever says (the above) a hundred times during the day, his sins are wiped away, even if they are like the foam of the sea [Sahih al-Bukhari; 7:168, Muslim; 4:2071]

SubhanAllahi wa biHamdihi SubhanAllahil adheem (Glory be to Allah, and Praise, Glory be to Allah, the Supreme)-
Prophet Muhammad (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) said: “Two words are light on the tongue, weigh heavily in the balance, they are loved by the Most Merciful One”
[Sahih al-Bukhari; 7:67, Muslim; 4:2071]

THE IMPORTANCE OF DHIKR:
Dhikr ( the remembrance of Allah Subḥānahu Wa Ta’Ala ) has so many benefits, therefore we should try to do as much Dhikr as we can throughout the month of Ramadan – Don’t forget, rewards are mutliplied by 70 during this month!

To all the mothers out there, if you feel like you have no energy left for Taraweeh prayer after a long day of fasting and taking care of the household, please recite ‘Subhan’Allah‘ 33 times, ‘Alhumdulillah‘ 33 times, and ‘Allahu Akbar‘ 34 times; In Shaa Allah this will give you the energy boost you need-

It is that reported in the Hadith of ‘Ali ibn Abi Taalib (Radi Allahu Anhu) who said that Fatimah (Radi Allahu Anha) came to the Prophet Muhammad (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) and asked him for a servant. He said, “Shall I not tell you of something that is better for you than that? When you go to sleep, say ‘Subhan’Allah’ thirty-three times, ‘Allhumdulillah’ thirty-three times, and ‘Allahu Akbar’ thirty four times.” (Bukhari).

In shaa Allah, I hope these tips will be of benefit. Always keep in mind that Allah (Subḥānahu Wa Ta’Ala) knows our intentions, he knows our situation, and he knows we are putting forth our full effort; and he will continue to shower his blessings upon us if we ask him to. May you all have a peaceful Ramadan and may Allah (Subḥānahu Wa Ta’Ala) grant all the mother’s Sabr, Ameen. © The Muslimah Mommy (2014)
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6 thoughts on “The Muslimah Mommy’s Tips For Mothers During Ramadan

  1. Love this: please pass on to all the mummy’s you know. I
    came across a lovely post by a mother who explains this in a most beautiful way. Enjoy.

    A Note to Myself…

    For the mummy’s this Ramadan

    Assalamu Alaikum. As busy mommies with young kids, we sometimes feel as if we don’t have the time to do as much ibadah as others do, or that the constant interruptions of our children take away our concentration and make us feel as though we are not deriving the best from our Ramadan. Well, don’t despair dear mommies, Allah Knows our intentions and he has Mercy on the mother.
    This Ramadhan…I must Remember that:

    When I get down into Sajda and the kids giddy up on me, I must remember, Allah is Al-Haleem (The Forbearing). Maybe it’s more about building perseverance than just performing prostrations

    When my energy levels run dry and the kids push all the buttons, I must remember, Allah is Ar Rahman (The Merciful). Maybe it’s more about showing compassion than preaching independence.

    When I’m about to break the long fast, and little summons of ‘wash me!’ rise from the bathroom, I must remember that Allah is Al Kareem (The Most Generous). Maybe, (undeservingly), He is giving away a huge piece of Jannat in exchange for a tiny morsel of food

    When I can finally sit peacefully on my prayer mat at night to connect with Him but they won’t fall asleep, I must remember, Allah is Al-Qadir (The Omnipotent) . Maybe He only wants to see my one hand raised in prayer while the other rocks His little creature to sleep.

    When at the parking lot, after a hectic food shop, they won’t sit and buckle up, I must remember, Allah is Al-Baseet (The Expander). Maybe He’s advancing me to the next level of fasting, which is much more than refraining from just food and drink.

    When I want to shut down, do nothing because I’m exhausted, hungry and thirsty but all they want to do is play, I must remember, Allah is Al-Mu’id (The Restorer). Maybe He wants to restore my energy, through laughter, love and making others happy.

    When feeling thirsty, my kids insist on going to the park on a hot sunny day, I must remember, Allah is Al-Gafur (The Forgiving). Maybe He will forgive more sins for cheering climbs and pushing swing seats.

    When all the mess and untidiness makes me want to explode, I must remember, Allah is As-Sabur (The Patient one). Maybe, I need to count the times I have messed up, to realise how lucky I am that HE is always willing to forgive.

    When all my efforts and hard work go unnoticed with loved ones, I must remember, Allah is Al-Wahhab (The Bestower). Maybe its about feeling ashamed of my ungratefulness for His continuous and countless blessings.

    When I feel compelled to use my power and dominion as an advantage over HIS Amanah, I must must remember, Allah is Al-Haseeb (The Reckoner) and not just maybe but CERTAINLY, there is no escape from HIS displeasure and reckoning.

    May we all have the opportunity to embrace an upliftingly spiritual Ramadan, Insha-Allah!

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